Y is for… You Do You But Respect Others, Too

As we near the end of this challenge and I scramble to find an appropriate “Z” topic, I thought I’d do a pre-wrap up by summarizing one of the more important life lessons I’ve learned studying anthropology and it’s one I still struggle with.

It’s very easy, especially when you’re often a part of the majority, to think that your way of doing/thinking is the “right” way. It’s hard to find a simple balance between how you see the world and how others do.

Anthropology is the study of humans. It is all about understanding the human experience across a variety of settings, cultures, and histories. It can be hard to learn about traditions that are foreign or even offensive to you and how you were raised but also view them with respect.

One of the popular examples is arranged marriage, a practice still fairly common in India (and a few other places). To those from societies where arranged marriage is not practiced, it can seem strange or even immoral but, where it is practiced, it is very normal–if not always welcome.

Arranged marriage is a fairly benign example but the main point is that, you almost have to respect others because you can’t force anyone to change–especially a large society. Whether it’s arranged marriage, facial scarring as a ritual of adulthood, or other cultural tradition, change is almost always only effective if it comes from within. You certainly will have a hard time convincing someone to change if you don’t even understand their reasoning!

You do you, but respect who others do it, too.

One more post! See you tomorrow!


Author: V. Kane

I write YA fantasy, blog about it, and then take my dog out for therapy. My current manuscript is ANATHEMA, a story of two sisters caught up in a war between the gods. Find me on Twitter at @ValkyrieWriting or Instagram at books_and_dogs

3 thoughts

  1. Arranged marriage. It is only an arrangement between more people instead of only a man and woman. Even in Europe and America I think parents do have a say in the marriage issues.
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  2. I also think that you need to try and look at from within to understand a different culture’s stance.
    For example, I ment many Indian girls when I lived in Dublin and I heard from a number of them that they wouldn’t trust a non-arragend marriage, because it would be too whimsical. Having the family behind the bride and groom makes the couple feel more safe and protected.
    I can’t say I agree (I actually think an arrange marriage has the same chances at susseeding than a ‘love’ marriage), but at least I can see why it is accepted by that society, even by girls who (in our western’s eyes) seem to be the ones who get the worse of it.
    But then again, I know that this is my culture speaking 😉

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